To
continue the series of articles inspired by or based on words from
the famed improviser and teacher David
Razowsky from USA, once the artistic director of Second City,
on SCTV, and a prevalent voice in the improv community all around.
After some immense moments with the man, it has led to a lot of great
results. Unlike the previous semi-season of articles, this completes
this half of the series with aspects that are congruent with his
thoughts. In this article the topic is about living life in the
present.
Ambition
drives people, but it controls people too. The drive is useful, but
it is painful when you end up battling reality with desire. The
persistent desire can blind the real, the present situation. As the
moral of a Buddhist tale states fools get trapped by their desires.
(Buddhanet.net, 2014)
What is
happening is no doubt great. This offers a focus on the present
moment. If it is possible to accept the opportunities that surround
us, it is viable that the sense of happiness is present. Furthermore,
reaching the space where living in gratitude happens it will stop
misery from the 'future'. Live in the present, in the now, and be
grateful for what is. Razowsky states, on his podcast (Razowsky,
2014), to replace ambition with gratefulness (Victor, 2012). Pick the
Brain's editor in chief discusses how seeking more implies that the
current is not good enough, there is unhappiness. Also looking to the
future, to the ambition is deeming now as unsatisfactory. (Pick the
Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement, 2007)
In a
similar way, Razowsky, (ibid.) says how he felt he would be happy if,
at any moment, the job ended. For example, for Razowsky, on 'Main
stage' at Second City with Steve Carrell and other such well known
names, if it had just stopped he would have been happy. This comes
from the happiness in the fact that it happened in the first place;
it is not about it having ended. As with all process-based
approaches, it is a practice. Everyone fails at some point. Like the
aforementioned mental adjustment to that special something stopping,
failure is an opportunity to remind ourselves why do it in the first
place.
A
positive approach to life will be more useful than a cynical
perspective. A car could die in the middle of a long journey.
However, it got the person that far; what adventure, new experience,
will it lead to and become useful or important for later? Steve Jobs
states that after dropping out of college, the skills he decided to
learn are now our norm in computing. Jobs took classes in calligraphy
and without that our fonts would not be anything like they are now.
(News.stanford.edu, (2014)
The
origins of the phrase 'every cloud has a silver lining' comes from
John Milton in 1634 (Martin, 2014) in the book Comus: A Mask
Presented at Ludlow Castle;
the term silver lining is used
to offer the better side, the silver side of the moment. In 1840 the
proverbial form arrived, which ever since has been a reminder of the
positive side of a situation. In improv, seeking the new perspective
is taught. In Charna Halpern, Kim “Howard” Johnson and Del
Close's book Truth in Comedy
they write about perspective with an analogy: "'You've got
chocolate in my
peanut butter!' The other
replies, 'You've got peanut butter on my chocolate!'"
(Halpern, Close and Johnson, 1994, p.3) What this gives insight into
is seeing anything fom a different view. Everybody has a different
look on the same thing, in improv we take advantage of that by
putting it onstage. Not only that but being positive and supportive
is taught too, hence the reason why the practice of a positive life
is more apt. Everything has a purpose, maybe not in the moment or
perhaps not directly relating to another era in life, but, as with
improv, it builds to a total result, with all aspects accounted for.
Being in
the present enables better insight into the moment; internal
reactions; people's behaviour; the state of actions in the
surroundings. It is these qualities that can start the long process
and practice in self-realisation. To realise the reason for an anger
impulse will calm it down quickly. Nonetheless, we can be present
with the emotion; knowingly live with it or willingly release it.
Razowsky uses the phrase, “lose what no longer serves you”.
(Razowsky, 2014) A negative emotional state does not do any use, so
lose it. It is understandable to be locked into an emotion, but once
it is realised it can be dropped. A challenge is to be angry when the
reason behind it is fully understood. Along with not externalising
issues, obviously, then the emotion will deplete itself. This is what
Steve Wells and David Lake (2010) call the dark side. Wells and Lake
suggest that people wish to want the problem to exist. (p.144) It
seems true that people avoid acknowledging and cannot connect with
themselves, which hinders all realisation potential. Razowsky (2014)
lets people have there emotion as it is not to do with him, even if
it is at him.
Many
people get stuck with themselves and are unable to release their
capacity to achieve. Everyone has many reasons they tell themselves.
A favourite saying Razowsky has from what he says is 'if you says
so.' If the individual stops telling themselves these statements,
which they hold on to, they will be what they say they want. This is
one way procrastination happens. Craig Ballantyne says that people
tell themselves these lies that they cannot do this or that.
(Ballantyne, 2012) It is a stopping factor; it will stop someone from
changing that thing that they want to. Many factors come into the
problem, like Ballantyne suggests, such as social re-inforcement and
societal pressure. However, we can look at the circumstances of
various statements that are made: For example, 'I cannot stop eating
chocolate biscuits.' The response to this is 'If you say so.' All
these statements derive from the place of avoiding a task, i.e.
cannot or can't, and labelling ourselves in judgement, e.g. I am too
clumsy. The facts behind these statements are historical and not
present. People that wish to change can. Holding onto the past means
you are not present with what is. The phrase, 'if you say so' can
free people from their lie. Ballantyne (ibid.) states the biggest lie
we tell ourselves is we can't do something: we can.
Likewise,
Razowsky also says to lose the why and the how of doing a task. Lois
Holzman (2014) explains that we are trained to seek the causality of
all situations and moments. Holzman describes the cause-effect
thinking that most, even in psychology, hold to be useful. This is
furthered by the example of how a therapist could open the
possibilities of non-causality response by suggesting that the reason
for the effect is seeking the cause or the resolution to the effect.
The example (ibid.) is the patient is depressed and stayed in bed;
Holzman suggests that the therapist states the potential that the
reason the depression arose is due to seeking the cause and resolving
it with staying in bed. Clearly in the article, Holzman is querying
the use of asking why. Another perspective can also be to query why
to do this or how to do that will merely be a procrastination to the
actualisation of the event. Jenny Maryasis (2002) wrote,
“procrastination thrives on a cycle of blame shifting and
avoidance.” When people ask why to do a task, they miss the
opportunity to find out. Although in generalisation the question is
to avoid or judge the activity. A constant shuffling around the next
step in the path that is available will only lead to it staying
still. Improvisation teaches us to move forwards. If an improvisers
hides in judgement or is asking why improvise the scene or how to
improvise the scene, that scene will not happen. An improviser lives
in the present; they live with what is present; they treat everything
as gold, including the people around them.
So the
important lessons from what Razowsky has found and speaks about, and
linking to improv, is to replace ambition with gratefulness. The
happiness this brings shall improve the quality of life, like not
holding onto negative emotions; release the anger by realising why
that exists. Similarly, procrastination comes in forms of judgement
such as asking why to do an activity or how to do it. When it ends,
it ends; remember that it at least happened.
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